Dr. Judy
SELF IMPROVEMENT: View Criticism as an Opportunity to Better Yourself
Are you a little tired of the broken record of “just think positively”? I am! I’m not saying that positive thinking isn’t the way forward SOMETIMES. But if we keep pushing away any #negativethoughts or feelings, we then end up in a cycle of avoidance, where we aren’t living in reality anymore, because real life sometimes comes with challenges, struggles, and yes, negative emotions and thoughts, that CAN serve us well if we let them!

For example, when someone tells you something you don’t love hearing about yourself, perhaps a criticism of your work, the way you approach a relationship, or an aspect of your personality that isn’t so helpful (yikes!), don’t just dismiss it or get into an argument about why it really isn’t so bad. Instead, take a step back and think about whether or not there is SOME validity and truth to what the person is saying, and then use that information to improve yourself. #Reframe it as FREE #selfimprovement fodder! Thank the person for their honesty, and move on. Take what you can use to help yourself become a better person and forget the rest. There is no need to dwell on criticism that makes absolutely no sense (if you’re being completely honest) or is some form of emotional abuse. But if it’s not either of those things, then you can learn something from constructive criticism. Some of my best self-development moments have been anchored by a piece of constructive criticism a boss, colleague, friend, or family member gave me. And I really do believe I am a better person as a result of their feedback and me being able to ignite positive change from what originally seemed like a negative interaction. What constructive criticism will you use to elevate yourself?